You are massaging the walls of the vagina, then her G-spot and then her cervix, slowly, consciously and with immense love
If you are massaging a lingam, keep a special eye on the speed of their arousal,’ says Constance. If it’s getting too hot too soon, slow things right down. Don’t fear loss of an erection it doesn’t matter, you can easily grow it again. Don’t fear them ejaculating too soon they can actually continue to experience pleasure and energy post-ejaculation, so continue the massage, and if the lingam is too sensitive, move the massage back to the rest of the body.